Effects of a Sensual Encounter

When I think of sensuality, I go back to the scene in "Their Eyes Were Watching God," when Tea Cake gave Janie one of the sexiest and most sensual kisses I have ever seen on the silver screen.  When your lover gives you chills or even those butterflies in your stomach that drive you crazy, then you are very lucky.  The first step in a sensual encounter is to take your time.  You cannot be in a rush to truly please your partner.  Take each moment as it comes to really touch and feel their body.  Smell, taste, lick, suck, grab, graze, and feel them.  Indulge in their essence.  With each encounter you will learn new ways to please your partner. A sensual love session is one that will linger in your lover's mind.  It sticks out more than the others due to you really taking the time to please and introduce them to the tender side of you.  Each slow, methodic kiss, or light touch of your fingertips will send them over the edge and make them crave you even more.  Be sure that you remain present during the encounter; no distraction.  The more sensual you are the more your partner will relax and you gain a new perspective on the vulnerable side of their sexuality.  Trusting you with their body as well as submitting to all your erotic desires.  Sensuality makes love making euphoric.

Misunderstood

Misunderstood

Game Factor #1

Game Factor #1

Gateway to the Soul

The eyes tell so much. They plead, beg, long, want, devour,and know, all at the same time. Eyes portray the very core of the emotion we are feeling and set the tone of the seduction. One gaze can say look but don't touch and another can say come closer. A look can be playful or it can be reassuring to your lover letting them know they are more than pleasing. In the movie, Memoirs of A Geisha, they spoke of a geisha who mastered the craft in such a way as to just give a man one look and it would drive him crazy and he would do everything in his power to be near her. Now, that's a look all women should master. Seduction and sensuality are more than sexy outfits and the act of pleasure. Foreplay begins with your eyes. Keep your lover engaged with your gaze.

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Sexual Cravings

We all have experienced and we all deal with it in a different way.  What I am referring to is when you crave sweet love from your lover and it's so intense that you feel like you are about to explode.   Intense desire ad passion about to erupt any moment. Cravings like this make for a unique night of eroticism and lust.  Especially when your lover is just as anxious to have you and you want to be devoured.  Your body becomes a delectable treat for them to sample over and over again.  Needing to give of yourself and taking all that your lover has to give, opens new doors of eroticism and it is amazing when you both reach that same level at the same time.  It doesn't matter if you just want somebody to make love to you, or whether you want it a little rough. All that matters is that you are getting it by the one you crave, because going elsewhere will leave you unsatisfied, and the worst thing you could do is settle when you have a specific craving. It's what I like to call a guarantee. You know that lover that just knows your body and can hit that spot every time, or can really make you forget about time and location cause you are only fixated on them and them on you.  Now that is what makes satisfying that craving so Mmmm Mmmm good. 

Kiss and Tell

There is nothing in this world like an amazing kiss. I'm talking about the kind of kiss that truly makes you forget where you are. A good kisser goes with the flow of their partner. Giving of themselves in waves. You can't come on with too much tongue action in the beginning, like a rushing flood. When it comes to kissing less is definitely more. In my opinion a kiss is like a story; each time you kiss your partner they are telling you a little more of their story. You just have to make your story just as intriguing to keep them coming back for more. A kiss says a lot about a persons personality; their forwardness as well as their timidness. So when you kiss, what do you tell?

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Superficial Companionship

Why do we accept temporary love? Most of us have a clear expectation of the kind of love that we want in our lives and yet we accept less than just for the companionship. Cheating ourselves out of what we deserve and yet we get frustrated with the other person who is only giving what they have allotted themselves to give.  As women we have a tendency to give all of ourselves so quickly, even when our partner either has no plans of doing so, or is just out to have fun.  The crazy part is that our partner was upfront about what they wanted and the limitations of their love and we still pour our heart out to them like it’s a glass of lemonade, when all they give us in return is a shot. Frustration comes in and we then take it out on them because they can’t give us what we want.  Ladies, we have to stop this.  It is no their fault that we are so hungry for love and they cannot feed into that right now.  We have to be what we need and then we won’t be left wanting.  This does not mean being cold to your partner, but setting some boundaries with yourself.  It’s going to be difficult to fight the urges to kiss them or caress them or even just do the extra things you do for them, but it has to be done.  What you allow is how you will be treated, so don’t allow anything less than truth and respect..

Sensuality Vs. Sexuality

The difference between being sexy and being sensual can subtle only in terms of the impact it leaves. Sexiness is more attuned to the senses and arouses things on a surface level.  We can look at someone's attire and say they look sexy, or hear their voice and think their sexy.  The fragrance that lingers when they walk by or even the way they walk can be described as sexy, but when it comes to sensuality, it is in a field of it's own. Sensuality is more emotional.  Not necessarily in a sense of being in love, because a person can tell from the first kiss how sensual their partner is.  Sensuality is something is felt on a deeper level. From a nice slow kiss to how tenderly your partner touches your skin. Sexiness makes you want it something because it looks and feels good, but sensuality makes you want something because it's never felt like this before. Tapping into one's sensuality takes some time for certain people and for other's it comes naturally.  Whether you're sexy or sensual, embrace your sexuality in all its glory and remember to only give as much of yourself to your partner that you are willing to receive back.

Do you consider yourself a freak?

What makes someone a freak in the bedroom?  We have either classified ourselves as one or have been called that by someone else at some point and time, but what is really the definition?  I believe that everyone has a different level of freakiness or kinkiness.  Some think that if they have sex in the middle of the day or a nooner that they are freaky.  Others believe they or their partner are based on how often they want sex or the type of sex (i.e. oral, anal, etc). Is a woman considered a freak because she likes to get her hair pulled while her mate is giving her the business from behind, or is he a freak for smacking her on the ass? Who’s to say, which is the freakier of the two, but then again to some that may be boring or common.  I do not believe there is a direct definition to the term freak, only because it is applied different to each individual. Don't let whether you're a freak or not deter you from being who you are.  There's no such thing as too freaky; we all have our own way of sexual expression.  The key is finding the partner that matches it, or if not in the beginning is open-minded enough to at least try some of the things you like.

Sex your man mentally

As women, we seem to only  use our bodies to peak our man's sexual interest. I am not sure where we forgot our intellectually sex appeal, but it is to revive it.  Sex is 90% mental. Think about it; we can look at a man going for a jog with his shirt off.  He has a back of a gladiator, arms like a boxer and washboard abs, that make laundry the last thing on your mind. Case and point: we look at him and imagine all the crazy pleasurable things that he could possible do. Even with your own lover, having flashbacks of your last sexual encounter makes you want to do it again.  Men have these same urges and wants, and what better way for him to get that than from you!  Ladies, I am referring to things like,  leaving little sexy notes in your man's coat pocket or in his briefcase.  As old fashioned as it sounds, think about how much more it means to him in knowing you took the time to write it, instead of text it. It creates a vibe of spontaneity. Leaving your man a short little note, telling him the kinds of sexy things you want to do to him when he gets home, will have him antsy all day long.  It can be as subtle as, "I can't wait for you to make love to me when you get home ;-)," or as more direct as "the lips between my thighs are aching for your kiss."  Whatever you are most comfortable with.  It doesn't matter if he left you that morning with an old frumpy robe on or not. You just ignited an urge in him to get home to his sexy lover that is craving his love-making. Another way to peak his interest is leaving some erotic poetry on his voicemail, in your most sensual voice. This can be poetry your wrote yourself or from a book. Being a Spoken Word Artist, I know first hand the power of erotic poetry.  Stimulating your man's mind will take your relationship to a whole new level and it shows that you can not only satisfy his sexually cravings physically, but also mentally.